Suppressing feelings and avoiding uncomfortable discussions can backfire, causing frustrations to manifest in unhealthy ways.
Let's take five minutes to see this week in a new light. | | | Sometimes the passive route is seemingly the path of least resistance. It avoids a direct confrontation and "saves" us from awkward conversations. However, suppressing feelings and avoiding uncomfortable discussions can backfire, causing frustrations to manifest in unhealthy ways. Passive-aggressive behavior can negatively impact our relationships, prevent us from getting what we need, and cause an undercurrent of internal strife. | | | If you feel that passive-aggressive behavior is damaging your relationships, there are steps you can take to change how you relate to others." | | | Sometimes we can tell when others are being passive-aggressive toward us, but it's not always as easy to identify when we do it ourselves. Examples of passive-aggressive behavior include: - Feeling frustrated that you aren't being "heard" or "understood" when you haven't clearly expressed your needs or frustrations.
- Pretending to agree with the other person to avoid conflict.
- Ignoring or avoiding someone when you're unhappy with them.
- Pouting, sighing, sulking, or generally being unpleasant toward the other person.
- Lashing out toward the person you're upset with over something unrelated.
- Not cooperating with the other person as a form of "punishment" or resistance.
| It takes time, patience, and practice to curb existing behaviors. The first step in being more direct is to prioritize self-awareness. When we understand why we're upset, we can more confidently express ourselves. From there, start practicing. Being direct may feel very "aggressive" at first, but you can communicate with kindness and clarity. Also, remember that many people appreciate when others are clear about their needs, concerns, feelings, and frustrations versus taking a passive route.
| Conflict is an unavoidable part of life but knowing how to assert your feelings effectively can result in better resolutions. Of course, the phrase "pick your battles" is one we ought to consider, as well. Sometimes a discussion truly isn't worth the hassle, particularly in one-off scenarios or when dealing with strangers. However, if someone's actions are consistently causing you frustration, then the best path forward is via a kind, honest conversation with an "us versus the problem" mentality. | | | Ways to Stay Positive This Week | | | Ways to Nurture Your Mind and Body | -
This week, take 10 minutes to journal about a situation where you chose passive-aggressive behavior instead of a direct conversation. What was the outcome? Did you enjoy satisfying resolve, or does some frustration still linger? What positive results might you have experienced if you chose directness instead? | -
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