It's scary at first to acknowledge that you can't control something. You can't force your parents to stop drinking. You can't force your partner to love you. You can't make your kids get good grades. You can, however, control how you respond to those things.
| |  | | How to Stop Focusing on Things You Can't Control | | | | Have you ever spent hours worrying about what someone might say when you see them? Or have you ever wasted weeks worrying about whether something bad might happen? I have. | I've spent many hours worrying about people and circumstances that I had absolutely no control over. And all that time worrying didn't do any good.
In addition to wasting time, focusing on things you can't control drains you of the mental strength you need to be your best.
Of course, it's hard to give up worrying about things we can't control. Our brains want to dwell on catastrophic outcomes or worst case scenarios.
It's scary at first to acknowledge that you can't control something. You can't force your parents to stop drinking. You can't force your partner to love you. You can't make your kids get good grades.
You can, however, control how you respond to those things. You can influence people with praise and boundaries and by making your expectations clear. And you can work on managing your emotional response when things don't turn out the way you want.
When you put your effort into the things you can control, life gets better. So on today's Friday Fix, I share how to tell if you're focusing on things you can't control and five strategies that will help you stop doing it. | | | | | | | | | You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the Healthy Mind newsletter. If you wish to unsubscribe, please click here. | | A DOTDASH BRAND 28 Liberty Street, 7th Floor, New York, NY 10005 | | | | | | | 
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